‘Don’t try to be the best this year, honey.’

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3 February 2013 by thaliakr

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Photo credit: Emma Jeffrey

It’s the first day of school for lots of people in the Southern Hemisphere this week, if they haven’t already headed back.

I am among the hundreds of thousands of people who read and were moved by Glennon Doyle Melton’s yearly talk to her son about what’s important at school:

Chase – When I was in third grade, there was a little boy in my class named Adam.

Adam looked a little different and he wore funny clothes and sometimes he even smelled a little bit. Adam didn’t smile. He hung his head low and he never looked at anyone at all. Adam never did his homework. I don’t think his parents reminded him like yours do. The other kids teased Adam a lot. Whenever they did, his head hung lower and lower and lower. I never teased him, but I never told the other kids to stop, either.

And I never talked to Adam, not once. I never invited him to sit next to me at lunch, or to play with me at recess. Instead, he sat and played by himself. He must have been very lonely.

I still think about Adam every day. I wonder if Adam remembers me? Probably not. I bet if I’d asked him to play, just once, he’d still remember me.

I think that God puts people in our lives as gifts to us. The children in your class this year, they are some of God’s gifts to you.

Chase – We do not care if you are the smartest or fastest or coolest or funniest. There will be lots of contests at school, and we don’t care if you win a single one of them. We don’t care if you get straight As. We don’t care if the girls think you’re cute or whether you’re picked first or last for kickball at recess. We don’t care if you are your teacher’s favorite or not. We don’t care if you have the best clothes or most Pokemon cards or coolest gadgets. We just don’t care.

We don’t send you to school to become the best at anything at all. We already love you as much as we possibly could. You do not have to earn our love or pride and you can’t lose it. That’s done.

We send you to school to practice being brave and kind.

[Read more at Momastery.com]

Pinterest is full of back-to-school traditions and variations on the photo-wearing-backpack theme (like the supercute image at the top of the post). I’m keen to hear, as well as that cool stuff, what kind of explicit messages you give your schoolkids about how to approach school.

Give us your wisdom, please!

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3 thoughts on “‘Don’t try to be the best this year, honey.’

  1. kindikat says:

    wow, this is great!
    I talk to my daughter a lot about her friends and her relationships with them, not prying too much but just to get her thinking about what is going on. I think that school (and kindergarten) are about finding a sense of belonging and community outside your family as well

  2. […] may know that one of my favourite posts from Glennon Doyle Melton at Momastery is about the talk she has with her kids when they start the […]

  3. […] may know that one of my favourite posts from Glennon Doyle Melton at Momastery is about the talk she has with her kids when they start the […]

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